{"id":141030,"date":"2019-08-18T12:00:58","date_gmt":"2019-08-18T16:00:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/truthforteachers.com\/?post_type=podcasts&#038;p=141030"},"modified":"2024-08-12T02:03:14","modified_gmt":"2024-08-12T07:03:14","slug":"unhelpful-things-teachers-say","status":"publish","type":"podcasts","link":"https:\/\/truthforteachers.com\/truth-for-teachers-podcast\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say\/","title":{"rendered":"5 ridiculously unhelpful things I\u2019ve said to students"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><em>This week on the <a href=\"https:\/\/truthforteachers.com\/truth-for-teachers-podcast\/\">Truth for Teachers<\/a> podcast: We might not realize it but our automatic responses and choice of words can sometimes send the wrong message to our students &#8212; here are 5 unhelpful things I&#8217;ve said to kids when I was in the classroom.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Have you ever been really upset and had someone tell you to calm down?<\/p>\n<p>That happened to me the other day, and it drove home just how spectacularly unhelpful it is to tell a person who is upset to calm down. Telling me to calm down when I am rightfully mad about something just enrages me more. It has the total opposite effect of what\u2019s intended!<\/p>\n<p>As I reflected on that interaction, I realized the person who told me to calm down was simply parroting a normal phrase we use, at least here in America, when people are upset. It\u2019s a default reaction, not an intentional word choice.<\/p>\n<p>What we mean is, \u201cI don\u2019t like seeing you upset. It\u2019s making me feel uncomfortable. I also don&#8217;t understand why you\u2019re this bothered, or don\u2019t understand the severity of your reaction.\u201d We want the other person to react differently so that it\u2019s easier for us to handle. But instead of expressing ourselves more honestly or better yet, allowing the person we\u2019re with to experience strong emotions and just sit with them in that, we say, \u201cCalm down.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I love to reflect on word choice like this because I feel like it gives me better insight into myself and my relationships, and how people interact with one another. We\u2019re all going to have moments when we&#8217;re frustrated and say unhelpful things. But noticing your patterns, and examining them, is really useful. It helps you be more intentional about your choices.<\/p>\n<p>I particularly like what teacher and child psychologist Haim Ginnott had to say about this \u2014 listen to this 30-second clip:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/CAyCEgQLB1U\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Our automatic reactions \u2014 the things we say to kids without even realizing it because they just come out of our mouths \u2014 are things we\u2019ve heard from other adults. Often our parents or our teachers said those things to us. And we can consciously choose to write a different story.<\/p>\n<p>I want to lead by example here and share with you some ineffective and unhelpful things I\u2019ve said to students over the years. I bet you\u2019ll recognize yourself in some of these. And I hope you\u2019ll take this as an opportunity to reflect with me and think about how we can create a different script, or write a different story so that other phrases become our default reactions.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-141067\" src=\"https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-tall-333x500.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"333\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-tall-333x500.jpg 333w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-tall-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-tall-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-tall-300x450.jpg 300w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-tall.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Listen to episode 170 below,<br \/>\n<\/strong><strong>or subscribe in your podcast app.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none;\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/10893367\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/backward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/672c5b\/\" width=\"500\" height=\"90\" scrolling=\"no\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\">\ufeff<\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h3><strong>1. You\u2019re in 3rd grade, you need to act like it!<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>What it really means:<\/strong> I expect you to demonstrate self-control every minute of the school day.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why it wasn&#8217;t helpful:<\/strong> This seems to be a common teacher-ism because I\u2019ve heard it said to kindergartners and high school seniors alike. Last time I checked, though, these are all still children. In my case, they were third graders, who were 8 years old.<\/p>\n<p>8-year-olds \u2014 like kids of most ages \u2014 tend to be silly, impulsive, and oftentimes, illogical. So every time I uttered this statement, my kids WERE acting like third graders \u2026 they just weren\u2019t acting like the elusive Perfectly Behaved Third Grader I had envisioned in my mind.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What I\u2019d say instead:<\/strong> &#8220;I know you can do better than this. I believe in you.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Or maybe I\u2019d give a specific expectation instead: What exactly am I wanting the kids to do that they\u2019re not? A simple \u201cHave a seat please\u201d is much more clear and kind than making a random statement like \u201cYou&#8217;re in third grade, act like it.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3><strong>2. Why are you doing that \/ Why do I hear talking?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>What it really means:<\/strong> Stop that right now!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why it wasn&#8217;t helpful:<\/strong> In those moments, I\u2019ve already decided there\u2019s no good reason for anyone to be acting that way. Therefore I don\u2019t really want to hear what\u2019s causing it or get into a debate with the kids about whether it\u2019s justified.<\/p>\n<p>If I ask a question like \u201cwhy are you doing that\u201d some kids are going to take it as a literal rather than rhetorical question and give an answer, none of which I\u2019m going to like.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What I\u2019d say instead:<\/strong> It&#8217;s better to replace those unproductive \u201cwhy\u201d questions with questions that inspire constructive responses from students and help them think about their behavioral choices. My go-to is: &#8220;What should you be doing right now?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>This is a genuine question that\u2019s designed to help the student reflect on their behavior and the expectations. Most of the time kids respond to \u201cWhat should you be doing right now?\u201d with either the correct answer, which I can then affirm them for, or they just get themselves together and don\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n<p>But the real magic is that this question primes me to see this as a learning opportunity. I feel and react totally different when I say \u201cWhat should you be doing?\u201d than \u201cWhy are you out of your seat?\u201d The genuine question actually warrants a response and doesn&#8217;t trap the kid into a place where there\u2019s nothing they can say that\u2019s right.<\/p>\n<p>If I ask, \u201cWhat should you be doing?\u201d and the student says, \u201cSitting down, but I didn\u2019t get a drink yet\u201d, I\u2019m primed to actually listen to the motivation for their behavior and respond to that instead of feeling immediately defensive because I\u2019ve asked a rhetorical question and they\u2019re talking back. It sets us up for a much healthier interaction.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>3. That\u2019s none of your business. Worry about yourself.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>What it really means:<\/strong> I don\u2019t feel like dealing with this or you right now.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why it wasn&#8217;t helpful:<\/strong> For me, this felt contradictory to the other things I was teaching kids about our classroom community and therefore, it was confusing to kids. Do I want students to only worry about themselves, or do I want them to help each other? How are they supposed to know when to pay attention to what\u2019s happening with their peers and when to only care about themselves?<\/p>\n<p>One minute I\u2019d say, \u201cDon\u2019t just sit there, help her pick those crayons up!\u201d and the next I\u2019d say, \u201cDo your work and let her take care of herself!\u201d\u00a0Or I&#8217;d chastise them with, \u201cYou knew he was writing those rude things on the cover of that book and you didn\u2019t do anything?!\u201d and then an hour later snap, \u201cWorry about yourself \u2014 that doesn\u2019t concern you!\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>What I\u2019d say instead:<\/strong> For my classroom and my students, I found it was more effective to teach kids how to address problems with each other. It was better to say instead: &#8220;Did you talk to him\/her\/them about that?&#8221; and guide kids through problem-solving together.<\/p>\n<p>If they were asking me a question I didn\u2019t feel like answering or felt was too personal, I could just say so outright!<\/p>\n<p>I wanted my students to be questioners, and I wanted them to feel comfortable with questioning authority rather than just blindly obeying anything any adult in charge tells them. Apart from those moments of frustration, I didn\u2019t <em>want<\/em> them to only worry about themselves. I wanted them to care about other people and be tuned in to the community around them. So, \u201cworry about yourself&#8221; is a message I tried to avoid saying.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>4. If you don\u2019t want to learn, then you shouldn\u2019t be here.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>What it really means:<\/strong> This is something I said a few times when kids were refusing to cooperate with my lessons and being repeatedly disruptive. It was a stand-in for, &#8220;I have no obligation to teach students who aren\u2019t enthusiastic and compliant.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why it wasn&#8217;t helpful:<\/strong> It&#8217;s just not true! Our job is to teach the students we have, not the ones we wish we had.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve actually taken the unhelpful statement a step further and said, \u201cYou don\u2019t want to participate? Then leave!\u201d and sent the kid to a coworker\u2019s classroom for an hour or so. That solved the problem of my derailed lesson, but not the problem of the child\u2019s disengagement.<\/p>\n<p>While I think it\u2019s appropriate to remove a disruptive child sometimes, I personally did not want to remove the child using a statement like that. It sends the message that the student is only welcome in my classroom when they are fully invested in their learning.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s really unrealistic because every kid is going to have a lot of moments when they\u2019re not feeling that way. I didn\u2019t even feel that way about being at school myself! I didn\u2019t want to be there every second and do everything I was supposed to do.<\/p>\n<p>By setting this standard that if you don\u2019t want to be there, just leave, I wasn\u2019t allowing space for any of us to be HUMAN.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What I\u2019d say instead:<\/strong> &#8220;We\u2019re counting on you to participate with this, and we want you to join in appropriately. If you choose not to, please sit at the table over there so your group can continue working. You\u2019re welcome to re-join anytime you\u2019re ready.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>When I chose this approach, I wasn&#8217;t making the determination that the child is not going to learn. Sometimes kids get drawn into a lesson halfway through, but if we remove them from the room at the first sign of disinterest, they don\u2019t get the opportunity to self-correct.<\/p>\n<p>By only removing them from the proximity to kids they were distracting, they were still able to learn and had the opportunity to rejoin the group quickly instead of just being banished.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>5. Do you want to get a zero\/repeat 3rd grade? Then you need to get to work!<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><strong>What it really means:<\/strong> This one&#8217;s deep. In Florida where I taught, kids were retained if they didn&#8217;t pass The Test, and reminding them of this just became part of our vernacular in many classrooms.<\/p>\n<p>The truth beneath it was really hard to face. When I say, \u201dDo you want to repeat the third grade? Then get to work!\u201d what I really meant was, \u201cI am terrified that you\u2019re going to fail and I\u2019m going to be held accountable for it. The stakes feel really high for me right now, and I am livid that you seem so carefree when I will literally get fired if you don&#8217;t buckle down and learn this material.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why it wasn&#8217;t helpful:<\/strong> If you\u2019ve ever threatened a child with repeating the grade level or course, then you know it&#8217;s generally a poor motivator and does not inspire them to care on the same level that you do. It might get them back on task for the moment, but it does nothing to build their confidence. It creates anxiety and raises the stakes for a task that they already find difficult and uninteresting.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What I\u2019d say instead:<\/strong> In retrospect, I should have stopped anticipating problems in the future and just dealt with the task at hand. During the times when I<em> was<\/em> able to take a deep breath and compose myself, I\u2019d say something like: \u201cWhich part are you stuck on? How can I help?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s no reason to raise the stakes on a child and make the task feel so important that it&#8217;s insurmountable. I found it was better to just figure out what the student needed in that moment and offer it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-141068\" src=\"https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-quote-500x500.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-quote-500x500.jpg 500w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-quote-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-quote-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-quote-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/unhelpful-things-teachers-say-quote.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>While I\u2019m betting you probably recognize yourself a bit in this episode, I hope you won\u2019t rush to defend practices that could probably use improvement.<\/p>\n<p>I also hope you won\u2019t condemn yourself.\u00a0Most of these are common teacher-isms that we pick up in schools and we just say on auto-pilot. These are not 5 statements that make you a bad teacher: They\u2019re just things that I personally have stepped back from, reflected on, and decided, \u201cThat was a pretty ridiculous thing to say in that moment and not helpful to my kids. Next time, I\u2019m going to try to respond more productively.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t promise that none of these things will ever come out of my mouth again. I\u2019ll probably even find myself telling other adults to \u201ccalm down\u201d when they\u2019re upset, even though it was so frustrating when someone said that to me! Old habits die hard.<\/p>\n<p>But I\u2019m definitely much more aware of these phrases so I can correct myself\/apologize if I say something unhelpful. That awareness is key \u2014 the only way to become more effective in our interactions with students is to reflect, and I hope my words today have been a jumping off point for you to think about some of your common phrases that could use replacing.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/truthforteachers\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-141073\" src=\"https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo-500x500.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo-500x500.png 500w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo-100x100.png 100w, https:\/\/truthforteachers.nyc3.cdn.digitaloceanspaces.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Fb-podcat-logo.png 1080w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>So now that I\u2019ve been vulnerable and put myself out there, I hope you\u2019ll do the same! Head over to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/truthforteachers\/\">Truth for Teachers podcast community<\/a> \u2014 that\u2019s our new private discussion group on Facebook \u2014 and let us know &#8230; is there anything you\u2019ve caught yourself saying to students that you would never want to repeat? What are the ineffective responses you say a lot and are trying to move away from?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>T<\/strong><strong><em>hank<\/em> you, Advancement Courses, for sponsoring today\u2019s show. Advancement Courses offers over 200 online PD courses in 19 different subject areas for graduate credit\u00a0and\u00a0CEUs\u00a0for K-12 teachers.\u00a0And right now, they\u2019re donating 10% of every purchase to fund DonorsChoose projects. 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